Set List Must Haves: How to Craft the Perfect Setlist For Your Wedding
There are a lot of boxes that you need to check leading up to your wedding day. Perfect venue? Check. Stunning florals? Check. Epic, entertaining, AMAZING wedding band? CHECK! Setlist…. Record scratch.
It’s safe to say that songs aren’t always number one on your to-do list, but this is an essential part of your wedding day! The right wedding setlist sets the mood for an unforgettable (and danceable) celebration.
While you should have final say and major input, if you have the right band then you can (mostly) sit back and relax. Every weekend, these professionals know how to keep the dance floor packed. But, there are steps YOU can take to make sure that the day is special to you.
So, how do you create the perfect wedding setlist? The key is to balance your personality with the band’s expertise.
Step 1: Review Your Band’s Song List
Most wedding bands will have a pre-built list of songs that they know like the back of their hand. These aren’t just random picks – they’ve been tested at countless weddings and are guaranteed crowd-pleasers.
Your job?
Look through their setlist and highlight a few songs you love
Create a DO Not Play list (yes, it’s totally fine to ban “Macarena” or anything that reminds you of your ex)
Giving your band this info upfront saves time and ensures they create a playlist that’s uniquely you!
Step 2: Trust the Pros
You might have a dream playlist in mind, but remember – your wedding band does this every weekend. They know what works, what flops, and how to read the room.
If you’re feeling stuck, ask them for suggestions! They likely have a go-to list of the first dance songs, high-energy hits, and even sweet slow jams to keep the night flowing perfectly.
Step 3: Choose Songs for the Special Moments
There are a few key moments where the right song makes all the difference. If you are drawing a blank, your band can help you pick something meaningful (and not overdone).
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Here are the must-have song moments:
First Dance - The big moment! Romanic, personal, and totally you.
Parent-Child Dances - Sweet and sentimental.
Wedding Party Entrance - Fun and high-energy to set the tone for the night.
Grand Exit - A big, celebratory send-off moment!
Step 4: Special Requests? Plan Ahead!
Now, there is a chance that you won’t find every song you want when perusing your wedding band's song list. Luckily, most wedding bands will learn 1-2 special request songs for your big day. If there’s a specific song that means the world to you, let them know early so they have time to rehearse and perfect it.
Step 5: Keep the Dance Floor Energy High
A great setlist isn’t just about your favorite songs. It's about keeping the party going. Your band will structure the set to:
✅ Mix in slow and upbeat songs for the right flow
✅ Play familiar hits to keep guests engaged
✅ Read the room and adjust as needed
The best weddings have a packed dance floor all night long, and a well-crafted setlist makes that happen.
Your wedding music should be a mix of your personality and your band's expertise. By giving them the right guidance – your must-plays, your do-not-plays, and any special requests – you’ll create a setlist that’s both meaningful and totally dance-worthy.
So, trust the pros, make it personal, and get ready for the best night of your life!
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